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Managing your emotions as a parent who owes child support

On Behalf of | Jan 19, 2024 | Asset Division, Spousal support

Owing child support can be emotionally challenging. Sometimes, these obligations lead to feelings of guilt, frustration and even resentment.

It is helpful for parents who owe support to review key emotional considerations and strategies to navigate this complex situation with empathy and understanding.

Acknowledge your emotions

You should try your best to recognize and accept the emotions that arise when faced with the responsibility of owing child support. Feeling guilty, ashamed or angry is common, but do not let these feelings define your self-worth. Remember, emotions are natural responses to challenging situations. Acknowledging and validating these emotions can help you better understand and manage them.

According to the Administration for Children and Families, the child support program served 13.2 million kids during fiscal year 2021. This shows that many other parents have these obligations and you are not alone.

Communication and self-care

Maintaining open and honest communication with your co-parent is vital. Expressing your concerns and emotions respectfully can help foster understanding and potentially alleviate tension. Regular communication can also help ensure that both parties are on the same page regarding financial obligations and any changes in circumstances. Shift your focus from the emotions surrounding child support to the well-being of your child. Remember that child support provides financial stability and support for your child’s needs.

Taking care of yourself is important during this challenging time. Engage in activities that bring you joy, reduce stress and promote self-care. Whether this means exercise, hobbies, spending time with loved ones or seeking support from friends, carving out time for self-care can help you maintain emotional well-being and resilience. Remember, seeking emotional support and guidance is a sign of strength, and it can make a significant difference in your ability to manage these emotions effectively.