Divorces can be complicated and messy. In some instances, ugly divorces turn for the worse and become hostile. If you are a divorcing spouse, do you think it’s possible to cultivate respect in a contentious environment? Additionally, can soon-to-be exes be more civil toward each other during divorce proceedings?
The effects of combative acts
The road to the dissolution of your marriage can be long and winding. Arguments and fights may arise, prompting some spouses to spew hatred and anger and commit acts such as:
- Unhealthy communication: There is no respect in their conversations. An example is when spouses can’t stop themselves from replying to each other with hate speech. Their situation worsens when they instigate fights by being reactionary, defensive and accusatory.
- Polarization: This happens when spouses don’t see eye to eye in all aspects. As a form of retaliation, a spouse can oppose each and every proposition of the other spouse. This could create more conflicts and delay the divorce process. In fact, some divorcing spouses can agree and disagree on varied matters.
- Defamation: This involves spouses who reveal their animosity toward each other on social media. Hateful posts with text or audiovisual media are not just additional pieces of evidence. They also complicate a divorce situation.
It’s advisable for spouses to calm themselves, tap into their emotional intelligence and look at the bigger picture. Since they are nearing the end of their union, they could strive to tame their negative feelings. In addition, they may try to avoid committing combative acts.
From being toxic to civil
Divorce stress can already be overwhelming, and being in combat mode may heighten hostile emotions. A legal advocate could make you realize that there is no need to be extremely aggressive. You can divorce in a more civil manner so that you may be at peace when you achieve your freedom.